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YOUR SELF AND THE PRAISE OF PEOPLE
Do you want to get closer to God? Do you want to say along with the blessed St. Paul, "having a desire to depart and be with Christ, which is far better?" (Phil. 1:23). Then be released First of your self, that self which you worship instead of God and which you try always to glorify and exalt before others.,
Does the world glorify you?
And do
you accept this? How wretched you are!.. Do you not know
that glory is due to God alone because He is the Creator
and
the author of all creation? He alone is self-existent, eternal,
powerful and present everywhere... Do you
not know that when
you glorify yourself or when you let others glorify you, you rob
one of God's attributes and ascribe it to yourself!! It is the same
temptation in which your father Adam fell, for Adam was not satisfied
with what God bestowed on him but aspired to exalt, himself and become like God!
Who
are you, brother, that you may be glorified? Does
the
dust have any glory or the ashes have any
honour? Or does
nothingness have any respect and veneration?! Are you not a
sinner like me! However, God protects you
and conceals your
defects from the sight of people... Does this give you, though a
sinner and a weak person, the right to have any glory or
dignity? Why then do you glorify yourself though you are
aware of your nature and of all your sins, defects and weak
points?
Is it
because people have not yet found out your lowliness or
known all about your past? They have not yet
discovered your
weak points and your faults? Why do you deceive them
though you know all this? Why do you deceive yourself for
nothing? Do you thus misuse God's protection
and concealment
of your sins?
Do you want God to reveal your thoughts, your feelings and your suppressed desires before people..!!
Besides, why do you seek a
vain glory which will not
accompany you after death nor avail you on the day of
judgment before the Righteous Judge who judges
not according
to the opinion of people.. He needs not to do so because
everything which is hidden is revealed to
him and is apparent...
Is the
praise of people still dear to you? Then know that it
is false.. for sometimes they praise you out of courtesy
or flattery or to encourage you or to show tactfulness.. Even if people
are true and faithful, they will judge according to the outside. None can read your thoughts, know your
intentions or examine your heart...
No doubt, my beloved brother, I bothered you with many thoughts; now I shall tell you a story. Let it be the story of Nebuchadnezzar.. (Dan 4:29-33) Do you know how he ascribe himself vain glory? Do you know what was his end? I wish that you would take a lesson from this story...
Have I
annoyed you? Please forgive my weakness and my
harsh talk.. But is it your habit to get
annoyed whenever anyone
talks to you frankly without flattering you
or addressing you in
a respectful way as the others do? . Why?.. Dear brother, you
rather have to like this style because it reveals to you the truth
about you. And you are in great need to know it for this is
necessary for your salvation..
Now,
let us discuss the matter together... why do
you want
to appear great before others? Is this due to
inferiority
complex? Do you feel that you are inferior, and in order to
make up for this, you seek the praise of
people by every means?
If they praise you, you become pleased, and
if they attack you,
you defend yourself hard in order to appear blameless before
them.. Even if they take a middle way neither praising nor
attacking, you do not feel glad either but you try to beg their
praise by telling them about your virtues so that they may
admire and praise you...
Is not this true? If so, let us discuss the
matter together further
more.
It is good for you, my brother, to feel that you are not perfect but a sinner and a weak person the meanest of all people.. But, the remedy for all this is not to add a new weakness which is the love of the praise of people but to improve yourself and make yourself perfect.
Why are you concerned about the
people's opinion
concerning you or about gaining their praise?
Would you
not enter God's Kingdom unless people
recommend you? know
then that many of those who are praised by others will be cast
into the lake of fire burning with brimstone as the Holy Bible
says, "Woe to you when all men shall speak well of you."
(Luke 6:26).
The praise of people, my friend, is temporal and passing for they have no firmness.. Once, they cried out for the Lord Jesus Christ as king and soon they changed and cried out "crucify Him, crucify Him". The praise of people is also false because they do not know the whole truth..
Here is a question which I
am interested to know your
answer of: How do you feel when people praise you while
you know your shameful hidden doings?
Do you forget -
while they are praising you-those sins which
if they knew about,
they would dismiss you out? Or do you pretend to have
forgotten? Do you consider such sins
trouble's which must not
appear at the time of your ecstasy created by the praise of the
others? Then you are only concerned about
the outside of the
cup.. You only want to be like the whited sepulchres which appear
beautiful outward but are stinking within! Your only concern is the earthly life not the life to come.
Be frank, my beloved brother,
in revealing your real
feelings to yourself. First confess before yourself, then pour
yourself before your confessor weeping bitterly and moaning.
Now, see how you ought to feel when people praise you:
1. Think first that perhaps you are a hypocrite and
your
outside differs from your real inside. Say
to yourself frankly, 'I
am a sinner and a filthy person.. When I sit
before my confessor,
I feel disgraced; when I count my sins I feel humiliated, low and
base and I feel my meanness; and when I stand
for prayer I feel
undeserving to lift my eyes unto heavens...
Why then do people
praise me! Perhaps I am a hypocrite or a double-faced person
who appears before people in a personality which is different
from the real one! Or am I an actor?
Perhaps I am so...'
2. Feel that when people praise you, you receive your due
on earth and lose the reward of heaven. Thus you lose your
crown for a trifling. When people praise
you, you ought to feel
sorry for the crown which you are about to lose.. This holy
sorrow will purify yourself and make your
spirit more free..
3. When people praise you, feel that this may be
embezzlement. You rob God's glory and ascribe it to
yourself..
while the Lord Jesus Christ says, ".. that
they may see
your good works and glorify your Father in heaven" (Matt.
5:16). So, if glory is ascribed to you in
stead of being ascribed
to the heavenly Father, you are considered as if robbing Him whether
you are aware or not... Therefore, when you pray saying,
“For
Yours is the kingdom, the power and the glory.." blame
your self which you want to be glorified and to rival God's power, for the psalm says,
"Not unto us, O Lord, not unto us,
But to Your name give glory" (Ps. 115:1)
4. When people praise you, deny yourself and draw their
attention to God. Without hypocrisy or pretended humility tell
them that you are a sinner and a weak person and that it is God
who deserves praise for such matters.. Address the same words
to yourself as well and be convinced so that you may not be
puffed with pride again.
5. When you find that a certain story or talk or some news would lead to your praise, try to change the course of the talk or at least do not be pleased but ascribe all honour to God contentedly.
6. When people praise you, remember the two beautiful
verses which say, "I do not receive honor from men." ,
"And now, O Father, glorify Me together with Yourself '
(John. 5:41, 17:5). Learn them by heart and repeat them always
within you.
7. When people praise you, remember your sins and let your conscience blame you in order that there may be a balance between your inside and the praise of people.
Lastly, if this is what you
ought to do when people praise
you, then it is a matter of course that you will not seek or beg
such praise. We shall return to the same point once again in
another article if the Lord wills that we
live.
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