He who wins souls is wise
This is what the bible says “he who wins souls is wise” (Pr 11:30).
This can be a spiritual, social, family and managerial principle. And we see that St. Paul the Apostle talked about this during his service and said:
“For though I am free from all men, I have
made myself a servant to all, that I might win the
more; and to the Jews I became as a Jew, that I
might win Jews; to those who are under the law, as
under the law, that I might win those who are
under the law… to the weak I became as a weak,
that I might win the weak. I have become all things
to all men, that I might by all means save some”
The statement “wins people” means to win
them for God and His Kingdom. And to win
people one should talk to them with words
that are suitable for them, that they can
accept and that they can be convinced with.
Jews believe in Old Testament books, so he
talks to them with words from the Old Testament.
For those without a Law, he talks using logic,
philosophy and wisdom.
He talks to every person with what suits him to
win every person for the Lord.
This principle applies to those who preach the
name of Christ anywhere. For example in Black
Africa they have a special color of traditions, culture
and way of thinking that we cannot make them
change. So, ever since we brought Christianity to
their countries we left them practice their traditions
and culture, such as using drums in their prayers
(Such as what Ethiopians do for example).
The important thing is that we give them the
proper faith and the proper dogma and then we
leave them to do what they are accustomed to do
out of their traditions as long as they do not
contradict the basics of our faith.
He, who wants to win a nation, has to study the
psychology of people and get to know the suitable
way to win them.
A person that we proudly remember here
is: St. Daidimous the blind.
He managed to convince so many of the
philosophers of his age with the Christian belief. He
talked to them with wisdom, logic and philosophy
until he led them to the Christian faith. He argued
with them with great respect. In his dialogue with
them he avoided insulting of making fun of them for
the way they think as heathens. Not like people do,
who go into a dialogue with others of opposing
thinking, and this turns to a fight and uproar. And
this way they will never win them.
He, who wins souls, is wise. If he goes into a
dialogue with someone following a different dogma,
belief or principles he does it in the right way
without hurting the other’s feelings.
Respect people, they will respect you back and
you will win them.
This principle, like what happens in preaching,
applies too in spirituals in general.
He, who wins souls, is wise in reaching the
outcome he desires.
And wise also in the means he uses to reach it.
He wins people for their benefit, for his own benefit
and for the benefit of building the Lord’s Kingdom. So
he gains a triple winning. He wins people, by relieving
them from their sins, guiding them and changing their
path to the right path. He wins them for his benefit so
that he may be in peace, conciliation and soul
He, who wins souls, is wise because as he wins
souls, he becomes loved by everyone and trustworthy
by them all.
The first on whom the statement “He, who
wins souls, is wise”, applies is God may His name
be blessed in His boundless wisdom and in His
love for the souls and winning them.
Like what God did with nations that did not know or
believe in Him, His prophets or His holy books.
He won atheists in Russia and Romania during the
Communist Ruling (70 years). He won them with his
amazing longsuffering. He was patient with them and
did not destroy them until they came back to the faith
The Lord Christ, in winning souls, forgave
those who crucified Him (Lk 23:34) and won
many of those who were far from Him like
Samaritans, for example.
Once, he was aiming for Jerusalem and He passed
by a village for Samaritans who closed their doors in His
way. When his disciples, James and John, saw that they
said to Him: “Lord, do You want us to command fire to
come down from heaven and consume them, just as
Elijah did?”… He turned and rebuked them and said,
“You do not know what manner of spirit are you of. For
the Son of Man did not come to destroy men’s lives but
to save them.” (Lk 9:51-56). And thus the Lord did not
get angry with them but used his longsuffering with
And the Lord’s patience with Samaritans continued until
he managed to guide the Samaritan woman. After that
people of Samaria believed in Him (Jn 4).
Prophet Moses also did not get angry with his
sister Miriam when she spoke against him when
he married an Ethiopian woman (Nu 12:1)
coupling against him with his brother Aaron.
To the extent that when the Lord hit her with
leprosy “Moses cried out to the Lord, saying, “Please
heal her, O God, I pray!”” (Nu 12:13). And Moses
won his sister and did not cut their relationship.
Abigail also; when David decided to kill Nabal of
Carmel, her husband, saying “May God do so, and
more also, to the enemies of David, if I leave one
male of all who belong to him by morning light.” (1S
25:22), she acted with great wisdom, offered David a
present, and bowed down to the ground at his feet,
and addressed him as “my lord” and called herself
“your maidservant”. With great humility she advised
him not to avenge himself; otherwise, this will be an
offense of heart to him when the Lord appoints him
rules over Israel… She managed to convince him with
her wisdom so that he said to her “And blessed is
your advice and blessed are you, because you have
kept me this day from coming to bloodshed and from
avenging myself with my own hand.” (1S 25:33).
This way, with wisdom she managed to win her
husband’s life and she won preventing David from
Really, he, who wins souls, puts in front of
him the saying that “A soft answer turns away
wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger.” (Pr
Joseph the righteous also won his brothers
by not avenging from them.
He, who wins souls; when he is in a powerful
position, does not use his power against those who
are weaker than he is. And does not win people with
violence, but rather wins them with kindheartedness,
kindness and love. Losing people is not a gain but
winning them is the gain.
He, who wins souls, who is wise, wins all
souls of all types.
He wins those who are righteous by dealing with
them and gaining their love, content and prayers for
him. He wins those who labor by sympathizing with
them. He wins his friends and family.
He tries to win everyone, as the Lord says “Come
to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I
will give you rest.” (Mt 11:28). You can win those
who labor by carrying their labor for them. Like what
the Lord said “The Spirit of the Lord God is upon Me,
Because the Lord has anointed Me To preach good
tidings to the poor; He has sent Me to heal the
brokenhearted, To proclaim liberty to the captives,
And the opening of the prison to those who are
bound;” (Is 61:1).
He, who wins souls, the wise, wins the souls
of those who labor with encouragement.
Whether they are young children, from whom we
win respect by encouragement; or the miserable
ones, and even the desperate ones, who can win
using encouragement too. As the bible says “comfort
the fainthearted, uphold the weak, be patient with
all.” (1Th 5:14), meaning those with low morale, who
started to see themselves small in their own eyes,
encourage them and be patient with them. Win them
The Lord Christ was patient with his
disciples in the mistakes they made, whether
when they were with him, at the time of His
crucifying, or after His resurrection. He was patient
with him who denied, with him who ran away and
with him who doubted his resurrection.
You can also learn to win people by bearing with
them and being gentle and kindhearted with them.
Try to win all, including enemies and spiteful
According to the Lord’s commandment in (Mt
5:44), win them by bearing with them and loving
them. St. John Chrysostom (Golden Mouth) said:
“There is a way by which you can eliminate your
enemy, and it is to convert your enemy into a friend”.
That means that if he became your friend you would
have eliminated his enmity and won him… but with
avenge you lose him and lose yourself too. Thus our
Lord Jesus Christ gave us the commandments of the
second mile and the other cheek (Mt 5:39-41).
And St. Paul the Apostle says “If your enemy is
hungry, feed him; If he is thirsty, give him a drink;
For in so doing you will heap coals of fire on his head”
(Ro 12:20, 21). This means that the love you treat
him with will be like coals of fire on his head, so he
will be embarrassed of your love and of your good
Also win friends, and keep their love and do
not lose it.
Among the things that make someone lose his
friends: too much rebuking and too strong rebuking.
If you ignore your friend’s mistake and let go, you
And the poet says:
If in all matter you were rebuking
your friend you will not find someone to rebuke
This means that you will not find a friend to
rebuke because you will be repulsive for everyone.
But if you rebuke, let it be gentle, and not on
everything, and may your features be controlled:
your voice may not get loud, your tone should not get
aggressive and your words may not be harsh.
And if we are requested to convert our
enemies to friends, then how stupid might it be
to convert a friend into an enemy?!
So keep your friends and do not quarrel with
them; and if you do, do not make it last for long, but
be aiming for making amends fast to keep the unity
of the Spirit (Eph 4).
We also say that in the family environment. The
wise husband can be characterized by good
treatment, nice words, respect for his life partner and
understanding of situations and circumstances. And
so the wife should be. As for raising children, wisdom
requires: less orders and admonishment, staying
away from firmness and aggression and taking into
consideration the age of children. Otherwise, children
will be looking forward to the time they leave the
house! Wise parents make sure they gain the love of
their children with kindness, tenderness, giving, good
treatment and sweet words. And they have to make
friends with their children rather than exercising
power on them.
Winning people can also be achieved through
complimenting them, giving presents, love and
How lovely was the love between Ruth and her
mother-in-law Naomi (Ru 1)?
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