Growing In Knowledge About Sexual Love In Marriage
Read pages 137-139 and chapter
10 of Deepening Love--For Marital Happiness and answer the
God showed his love for us in
instituting marriage and blessing it. He blessed it also with
sexual love and happiness, through which he re-populates the
earth and blesses married couples with children. To preserve for
us his blessing of sexual love and happiness in our marriage, he
has given us instructions to guide us. In this discussion we will
discuss the Lord's instructions and problems couples cause or
Do either of you have feelings
of guilt or shame about giving yourself to your partner after
marriage? If so, what is the cause of those feelings? What did
you learn in pages 157 & 158 that can dispel those feelings?
Sexual abuse during childhood or
rape can cause serious emotional problems for the woman who has
been victimized. The victim will carry fears into her life, fears
which make sexual love painful or impossible for her. If you are
the bride and you are struggling with fears and a strong aversion
to sexual love with your groom after marriage, do not be afraid
to admit your fears and the emotional pains the thought of sexual
love is causing you. You need help with counseling for victims of
abuse. Let your groom and your pastor help you find a competent
counselor who works with abuse victims.
Who is responsible for sexual
love in marriage as a pleasure to be experienced and enjoyed? See
pages 137-139 and 158-159.
Sexual love is a marital duty.
See pages 159 & 160.
- In what ways could a couple
renege on this duty they have promised to fulfill for one
In what ways does God intend you
to be able to enjoy your sexual love together? See pages 160
Who is obligated to give sexual
pleasure to whom? See page 161.
What will the spiritual
meaningfulness of your sexual love be to you? Refer to page 163.
Through your sexual love what
will you be expressing to one another? Refer to page 162.
If the wife is left sexually
unfulfilled, what effect will this have on your sexual
lovemaking? See pages 165 & 166.
How will your individual
selfishness ruin your sexual love? See page 167.
A lack of knowledge causes
problems to the sexual love in marriage. Have you purchased a
book on the subject written by a competent physician or
counselor? "Intended for Pleasure" by Dr. Ed Wheat is
one of the best on the market.
How will other areas of your
marriage affect your sexual love? See page 169.
Evaluate sexual fantasizing
during your sexual lovemaking. See page 171.
Have you entertained yourselves
with sexually explicit materials, such as movies, video tapes,
- What does the Lord say about
What effect does pornography have on a couple? See page
172 & 173.